In the book, Success Principles, Jack Canfield teaches a formula that is simply brilliant!  I use it everyday in every situation and decision that i make.  The formula is:

E + R = O

(Event + Response = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life.   Likewise, if you want to change the results you get in the future, you must change how you respond to events in your life … starting today.

If you don’t like the outcomes you are currently getting, there are two basic choices you can make.

  1. You can blame the event (E) for your lack of results (O).
  2. You can instead simply change your responses (R) to the events (E) until you get the outcomes (O) you want.

Let me explain in more detail…

Take the E (for “event”): What is going on around you?  We have no control over that. “It’s how we respond that produces the outcome, not complaining that our results are poor because of it,” Canfield says. “We have to constantly change our response to these events to create better outcomes.”

 

Then, add the R (your “response”): According to Canfield’s principle, there are only three “R’s” that you have any control over:

  1. your thoughts,
  2. the images that you hold in your head (visualizations, worries, fears and fantasies), and
  3. your behavior (what you say and do).

If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result.

If you don’t like your outcomes, change your responses.